Mindfulness and the Importance of Having Fun and Looking Good

Source: Etsy

Source: Etsy

How much do you think you spend on the following categories?

  • Entertainment
  • Clothing
  • Random Expenses like lattes, snacks, etc.

Probably more than you think you do!

Where do you spend your money?

I know that my entertainment and clothing categories were woefully small in the last six months and I’ve been wondering why that is. I think it’s because I’m spending a lot of my money on food expenses, and I’m not taking the time to take care of myself through other means that aren’t food.

Thing is, we need both entertainment and clothing. When I’m not spending money on those categories, it’s usually because I’m eating way too much food that’s bad for me. I’m eating my feelings.

So, although I know my entertainment and clothing categories are gonna go up in the next few months, I totally understand why and I’m actually kind of glad that I’m spending more on those items because it means I’m not spending it on junk food.

Here’s the truth: I’ve been steadily gaining weight over the last year. Kind of like the same way I’ve been steadily gaining more debt. The correlation between the two is not a surprise. When you’re not paying attention to one thing in your life, chances are you’re not paying attention to other similar things in your life. So I was spending (and eating) way too much money (and food). Now that I’m tracking my expenses and logging some of my food, I’m doing a much better job of managing both.

This is where mindfulness comes in

The reason I’m tracking my food is because I’m working with a nurse to lose some of the weight that I’ve put on. Her first recommendation was to start eating breakfast, so I began tracking that. We met after two weeks and talked about adding more vegetables to dinner.

I’m not expecting miracles to happen right away, though. With anything that requires a concentrated effort to do, I know that there will be steps forward and backward. Case in point: I gained two pounds in the last two weeks. I also had to use my credit card last week to pay for laundry.

But I know that these events happened and I can mitigate the damage of both because I’m aware of what’s going on. I really can’t stress enough how important it is to just be aware of what’s going on in your life instead of letting things happen blindly.

This is why I’m a big fan of mindfulness. Mindfulness is just being aware of what’s going on in your life. Living automatically without much concentration leads to the problems I’ve been facing lately. Now that I’m more aware of my actions I can slowly change things so that I’m no longer gaining weight and spending money frivolously. Hopefully I’ll even begin losing weight and saving more of my money!

Have you experienced mindfulness? Has it helped your life?


The Psychology of Change

In a recent article in the Toronto Star, journalist Ian Harvey wrote about the reasons why diets don’t work: “The biggest barrier to success are psychological, and the patients who fail most often are those who aren’t ready to totally commit. Conversely, those who are either at crisis or have decided to change — whether it’s quitting smoking, exercising or dieting — will be more successful in making better choices.”

One has to commit to change in order for it to happen. It’s not something that happens overnight. It doesn’t even happen in a week’s time. You’ve got to really build upon small successes slowly but surely.

Trust me, this is me building myself up as much as it is a reminder for anyone else.

I’ve begun building my emergency fund with a dollar a day in the jar. So far so good. And my Spending Journal is being used. This journal will help me keep track of each dollar that I spend.

My next step is to begin making some small changes to how much I spend per week on various things and to increase my income. The biggest money pit for me is food. I spend a lot eating out. When I don’t care, I don’t care and I’ll spend without even thinking about it, to the point where the Popeye’s Chicken restaurant in my neighbourhood knows my order. That’s embarrassing and unhealthy for me. I shouldn’t be eating there so often.

But enough negative talk! This isn’t about what I should or shouldn’t be doing. Here’s what I did today that I’m proud of: I bloody well packed a lunch, got the coffee maker ready in the morning, brewed a pot while I was in the shower and didn’t almost leave the travel mug sitting on the kitchen counter. Okay, maybe I did. But I remembered it while I was in the elevator, so I wasn’t too put out by it. I had been distracted by my phone, which I was checking emails from on my way out the door. Note to self: next time, just wait. You don’t have to read them while you’re getting ready. I had received a rather chastising email from someone about a post I made on my reading blog and it was bothering me while I was getting ready, hence why I wasn’t fully mindful of the fact that I didn’t have everything in-hand. But, no matter, I got my coffee.

mary-brownsTonight, before I go to bed, I’ll make myself lunch again to take to work. It worked out really well today and I’m looking forward to eating food from home again. It was just enough to tide me over until we went out for supper this evening to Mary Brown’s. It’s not often we go to Mary Brown’s, but now that we have my mother’s car for the next couple of months we’re making a point to go occasionally because we love it so much. And because I hadn’t bought my lunch today I was doubly happy to get my Big Mary sandwich, relatively guilt-free.  (Still not the healthiest meal, you know?)

Anyway, I’m taking small steps. The Emergency Fund is coming along, $1 a day, and my expenses are down by at least $5 from a week ago. (I spend roughly $5-$10/day on lunch.) I’ll be interested to see when I tally up January’s funds to see how they compare to December’s. Will I inherently spend less now that I’m tracking my dimes and nickels (no more pennies in Canada!)? Or will my food budget be the same? I think it will take some time to see a difference because I’m now tracking all of my money, not just what I have in my bank account or on my VISA. The bank withdrawals category is a big ol’ I Don’t Know Where It Went since I haven’t kept track of my cash for the last six months. But that’s okay. We’ll see where it pans out.

In regards to my VISA, I’m also working on moving my balance to a lower interest rate card. I’ve requested an increase on the lower interest rate card so I can put the full amount onto it. I don’t know if I’ll get it, but it doesn’t hurt to try. Even if I can’t, I’ll save some money on interest by switching some of the balance over and paying the higher interest rate card off as quickly as I can.

What I need to prepare for is my student loans. I’m about to put that back into the budget because I can’t hold off on the payments any longer. I mean, I could try and ask fro repayment assistance again and I’d probably get it, but that’s the irresponsible thing to do. I need to pay these debts off once and for all. If I don’t it’s just going to continue sitting on my head like a dead weight, not contributing anything. Considering I can’t even tell you half of the courses I took in university any longer, I think it’s time I put this degree to bed and move onto the next phase of my life, right? Right.